Shalom Bayit

Shalom Bayit is a key concept in traditional Jewish marriage. Literally meaning peace or harmony in the home and it refers to any practice or behavior likely to promote those ends. Building a Jewish home requires insight, knowledge and continued learning. In this weekly section you will learn what you can do to enhance and preserve the Shalom Bayit in your home so that you can reap the benefits of peace in the home. You will receive practical and earnest advice while learning about what our Rabbis teach concerning this holy subject matter.

Be sure to check back every other Sunday as new Shalom Bayit topics are added.
This section is meant for women over the age of 20 or women already engaged to be married.


Can A Marriage Be Saved When It’s Falling Apart?

One of the ways to save a marriage is to seek help early on instead of waiting for contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling to become entrenched in the relationship. It also helps when you ensure before marriage, that you’ve made a good choice in a partner.

In the early stages of a relationship if issues come up, they shouldn’t be swept under the rug, they should be discussed either among yourselves or with a marriage counseling.

Marriage is no different than acquiring an education or a skill set.  It takes work, daily work for harmony, joy and peace.

Love and trust are vital components to the foundation of a solid marriage that endures.  But love and trust alone are not enough. When times get tough, listen effectively and communicate your emotions in a non-blaming or defensive way.

Prioritize your marriage such that you both put energy and time into it.

A marriage is like a plant. It won’t survive without proper sunshine and watering. You can’t just put it in a corner and expect it to thrive on its own under clouds. Put some energy and effort into the relationship, just as you did when you were dating. Spending just ten minutes a day together emotionally connecting can help save a marriage.

Stop talking about divorce. Instead, put all your resources into saving your marriage. Invest in having a wonderful long-term relationship with your spouse.

Rediscover the reasons you thought your partner was your best choice.