Hang up a sign in the house that reads: Mi’Shenichnas Adar Marbin Be’Simchah – to be happy from the outside is easy – but to display happiness inside the house is more challenging Put on Music and display happiness in the home.
Rabee Nachman says – as you’re listening to music – put your hands together and clap – right hand is rachamim, left hand is din…put the right hand over the left and ask Hashem that He should exercise His rachamim over His din and that He should overturn, ve’nahafoch hu, the din to rachamim.
Every day, in this chodesh of Adar you should recite Perek 22 – because this is the perek that Esther Ha’malkah recited before she approached Achashverosh.
Rav Eliezer Diskind (a”h) wrote that it is a great segulah throughout the month of Adar but especially on Purim to recount the miracle that transpired during that time with great happiness - because when you do, you cause a tremendous simchah to take place in the heavens,”Ve’chedvah atzumah le’ein aruch – and there is tremendous joy that can’t be measured – “Ve’HKBH mitpa’er bo – and Hashem boasts about you in the heavens.”
On the day of Taanit Esther preferably very early in the morning as the sun rises, after washing netilat yadayim, you should put money in the tzedakah box and light two yahrtzeit candles that last more than 24 hours for Esther Ha’malkah bat Avichayil and Mordechai Ha’yehudi. And recite perek 22 of tehilim and make your requests of Hashem. In general through the entire day of the Taanit, if it’s possible – the more you recite Tehilim the better it is.
It’s written in Sefer Segulot that it’s a tremendous segulah to wake up very early in the morning on Purim day and daven to Hashem for all the things you need in your life: happiness, health, good children, shalom bayit, parnasah, spirituality, the geulah etc…
The holy Rav Tzadok Ha’kohen from Lublin (a”h) wrote that because during the times of Achashverosh there was a heavenly decree that Am Yisrael should perish and they remained alive – Purim day is a tremendous time for akarot to daven that Hashem should open their wombs and create life.
The holy Rama (a”h) advises us to send mishluchei manot to those whom we haven’t gotten along with – because when we do we’re attempting to create ahavah ve’achvah and this is something that pleases Hashem a great deal. In addition, it’s preferable to send Mishluchei Manot to those who don’t have the means of making their own seudah. (Talk about Ohel Sara Mishluchei Manot)
Your table should be adorned with a white tablecloth and two tall beautiful candles on the table – such a table eradicates the influences that Achashverosh on the Jews when he invited them to his table, to his banquet. We begin our seudah following minchah because that’s the time that the banquet took place all those years ago and since our eating and dancing is going to be done with tzniyut and kavod – this is a tikun for all those Jews who participated in Achashverosh’s immoral banquet. And – it’s an inyan to buy a longated challah to be placed on that table that symbolizes the tree that our enemy Haman was hung on
During the meal itself, you should excuse yourself and go to a private area in your home and recite perek 22 and 23 of tehilim and beseech Hashem for any gezeirot to be overturned and that the ultimate simchah of the geulah should come to fruition in your days.
For those of you who really want to add a tremendous segulah – at the seudah, you should recite the words, “Baruch Mordechai,” 120 times – and the words, “Beruchah Esther bat Avichayil,” 24 times. Chachamim say when you do that, you draw down to you the spiritual light of Mordechai and Esther onto your family and Am Yisrael.
These segulot were primarily taken from the Sefer: Kav Ha’yashar, from the lesson of the Ben Ish Chai, some from the Zohar Ha’kadosh. There are obviously many more segulot but I chose the one that I felt were sensible enough for the women to undertake since so many of us are very occupied with other spiritual matters on this holy day.
It goes without saying that Purim isn’t Halloween, lehavdil. It’s not a day of getting dressed up and having fun. It’s an extremely holy day and you have to treat it with the respect it deserves.
This means that your costumes should be modest and you should try not to dress your kids up in ways that doesn’t create berachah for them. It’s written in many Sifrei Kabalah, that the outside has the ability to influence the inside. The costume you wear on Purim can effect your neshamah. So try to dress your kids up in costumes that will influence them appropriately and that represent Am Yisrael.
Secondly, the seduah is a holy time ladies. Our seduah should not turn into another Achashverosh gathering and that means that there should be music that personifies our nation and not the other nations. You should dance modestly with proper mechitzot and not be wild, inappropriate and immodest. The discussions at the seudah should be about Purim, the miracles and the greatness of our tzadikim. Your seudah should be be’tuv taam because the shamayim are open to you and you want to draw down all the positive influences of the chag and not chas ve’shalom more kitrugim upon our nation.